Premature Ejaculation

The effect of the mind over the body.

Humans can learn so much from observing nature around us. Every animal has a story to tell that is important in our own psychological makeup.

When you watch a pack of wolves, there is a very definite structure and leadership that every member of the pack carefully obeys. The leader of the pack is the strongest male and protects his territory. To ensure, healthy pups to keep the species strong, the leader also insists that he is the one - the only one - who mates with all the females and produces the pups.

But the other males have a real dilemma! They also want to mate. They know that if they do, they risk either being challenged and possibly killed by the leader. or outcast from the comfort of the pack.

Sometimes, even though they're not allowed, the other males sneak in and try to mate very quickly with premature ejaculation - before they get caught by the leader because they are not allowed to impregnate the females. The leader of the pack is not generally merciful (to say the least) and will not allow disobedience.

This same instinct can be triggered in humans, usually men, when our safety and nurturing is dictated by a strong, dominant (or domineering) male. It all happens very quickly and automatically. We may be unaware of this behavior.

When a man has been raised with harsh or strong dominance around him - and when he has to put up with that harsh or strong dominance in order to have the shelter and nurturing that he needs - then it's very possible for the 'wolf' instinct to set in.

This wolf-cub instinct actually protects the wolf-cub because by putting up with the leader's rules, the cub gets all of his other needs met. He needs the protection of this dominant male/or his mother may need this protection (and he is very bonded with his mother). It's not safe OR WISE for him to confront or threaten the supremacy of the dominant male and his life is generally 'better' - safer - because of his natural instinct to allow the dominant male to keep his #1 position.

There does come a time though when this natural instinct is no longer helpful. You may now be living in your own house. You have your own woman. Your own job and money. Your own life. THE FATHER IS NOT THERE ANY MORE.

The point is the dominant male (perhaps the father) prevents other males from having contact with any females, particularly the mother.
Premature ejaculation, because instinctively you felt like the dominated wolf. It is not necessary any more. Instinct from the ancient-brain feels very real. But it's not real any more. You are allowed to have your own woman. You don't have to worry - unconsciously - about being caught. YOU`RE ALLOWED TO HAVE A MATE NOW.

There is no problem with premature ejaculation in masturbation because the male dominant (perhaps a father) is not there to prevent you mating. When a woman (vagina) is present it triggers unconsciously that you are not allowed to mate or even to be in the presence of a female/vagina. This is the story of the dominated wolf.

“We need to turn off the instinct that triggers almost immediate ejaculation.”
To turn off the instinct of premature ejaculation, you need to realize that now you are allowed to mate.

First we need to thoroughly understand the words written here. We need to integrate them into our own thinking. If there are parts of the story here that don't seem to fit, we need to ask questions until it truly fits for us. An important part of allowing this to work is found in being able to totally accept it. IT`S NOT NECESSARY TO SNEAK OR HIDE ANY MORE.

We need to reassure ourselves - like soothing a baby with constant reassurance - that this is indeed the situation. Reassure yourself that it is no longer necessary for you to have premature ejaculation.
We need to thank our instincts but firmly reassure them - and ourselves - that we understand the reasoning behind these actions and this particular action - premature ejaculation - is no longer necessary. It’s not necessary to sneak and be fast - you can take as long as you like.

When you are about to make love and see or are in the presence of a vagina, take a moment to consciously remember this story and enjoy the feeling of relief that you are safe and can take as long as you like because you are allowed to make love now. Reassure yourself that this is your life; your woman; your lovemaking.

You are no longer dominated - no longer submitting to a dominant male's rules. This is your life, your own wonderful sexuality and your own right to make babies.

And remember that the dominant wolf in no way means any harm or is any less loving... In fact this is his special way of trying to ensure 'the best' for those under his care and who he loves. Whether or not it really is the best.

Most dominant wolves would lay down their lives for their pack...

Read the last few paragraphs of this story over and over - and make sure you read the following part of this story to help make good sense of the whole picture...